If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
If you can't progress with your life unless you d/a, then go ahead. All the best.
The Searcher
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Is disassociating worth the hassle?
by HereIgo ini have been out now for 6 years but lately i have been giving some thought to da.
i just kind of feel that chapter in my life is still open and for some reason i feel like da'ing might close that chapter but i'm not entirely sure.
im not df either, when i left i basically faded and disappeared.
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Selloff Hinted At Assembly
by thedepressedsoul inthe last talk at the assembly made an interesting statement, "we can show faith by following direction if we're asked to move to another kingdom hall for better use of dedicated christian funds".
this statement has everyone talking.
i spoke to multiple individuals and they heard the same thing at different assembly's.. i know they have been "evaluating" all kingdom halls the last year or two.
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The Searcher
The Master Plan letter is being implemented to maximize auditorium capacity - and the org's bank balance!
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Another Medieval Silver Coin
by cofty ini got out detecting for an hour this evening.
the field just two minutes from my house has been harrowed but not seeded which makes it perfect for me.
hopefully it will stay that way until it is seeded in the spring.
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The Searcher
Well done Cofty. Your hobby is really satisfying and rewarding, but I genuinely look forward to hearing that you've discovered some life-changing booty - just to put the icing on the cake!
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Hello from Still Totally ADD
by Still Totally ADD injust wanted everyone who knows me to know i am alive and well.
we just sold our house in pa and are about to buy a house on one acre just outside jamestown ny.
our health has been good and we both have good part time jobs.
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The Searcher
Nice news to get on a Monday morning. Best wishes for you and your wife.
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141st Gilead Gradution Talks 1st Part
by Listener inthese grads.
are a special people indeed.
how on earth they put up with all this indoctrination is beyond me, months of intense brainwashing.
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The Searcher
"As one travelling overseer said ‘dont put a question mark where Jehovah puts a period’...Don’t see the men that Jehovah is using, see the cloud and may all of us do the same.”
Unscriptural, cultic anecdotes like this seep into the J.W.'s psyche and reinforces the delusion that they are being guided [ruled] by "God's earthly organization". (no scriptural references to G.E.O.)
Sadly, they make themselves subjects of an autocratic elite.
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I found a list my Wife is makingof subjects i have told her about the BORG.
by goingthruthemotions inso me and my wife have not been on speaking terms for about 5 weeks, and when we do .
talk…it is arguing about the jw cult and more of a barrage from me telling here all the stuff i have learned.
i know i shouldn't do this....but, i get so freaking p.o ed aobut what this cult has done to my family.
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The Searcher
GTTM - firstly, don't pry any further into her "personal" notes or anything else for that matter. How would you feel if she started looking into your private stuff?
Secondly, cease immediately telling her anything which points the finger at her precious JW org - she's got the point that you believe they're corrupt. Saying anything else will only dig the hole deeper for your marriage.
Thirdly, If "invited" by the elders to step into the back room for a chat, go ahead - but only to ascertain what's on their minds. Never refuse to hear what they want to say - just don't say anything to answer their questions.
If they want to discuss your wife's list, simply say "Your concern for me and my wife is understandable, but I'm sure you'll respect the fact that anything which my wife and I discuss privately is not up for public discussion - as I'm sure you would both tell me the same if I asked you to reveal your personal conversations with your wives. I appreciate your motives. If I ever require your assistance I'll call you. Thanks."
Their "chat" is crucially to get you to put the rope around your neck.
They have only one witness. They can't do anything or prove anything - so don't give them anything!
Ecclesiastes 3:7 - "A time to be silent and a time to speak."
This is now your time to keep silent - I wish you well.
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Struggling a bit, guess it's to be expected...........
by dubstepped inthroughout this process since my wife and i disassociated just over a year ago i've been pretty positive.
focusing on my new life, new friends, having fun, and living a good life.
it's been great.
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The Searcher
Dubstepped - at 39 and in good health, (?) your past is just that - past, gone. But what a great future you've got ahead of you. Your regrets will diminish as you create experiences and memories with your new and better life.
To quote a line from an Eagles song - "So oftentimes it happens that we live our lives in chains, and we never even know we have the key."
Do your very best to enjoy your life!
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Today I Dropped In To Field Service Meeting
by pale.emperor ini just dropped my daughter off to her mum at her parents house.
it was 12pm and i knew they meet for feild service there but my ex and i assumed they would still be out knocking on doors.
i pull up in the street and there's quite a few cars parked up and the house was backed with jdubs from my old congregation.
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The Searcher
Well done for acting like a normal human being!
All J.W.'s should be forced to face the brutal effects and reality of what their anti-Christian behaviour is all about - fear and control by their self-appointed hierarchy.
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Surviving
by New day ini have recently read 1984 by george orwell and also read a reference on the beroean pickets site to a post on freeminds.org on "1984 and big mother".
the freeminds article is quite old now but nonetheless holds true about how witnesses like myself have to resort to extremely elastic thinking to make sense of everything we read and hear these days at the meetings.
we have to "gain a series of victories over our memories" as we know we were taught certain things that we must now "unlearn" like the absolute certainty about what the generation of matt.
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The Searcher
Hang in there New Day. It will get easier. Always remember that you are now in the light and out of the darkness.
Even a faithful elderly sister who is still a very dear friend (in our last congregation) regularly told me, "Just keep your mouth shut and act dumb, because that's how the org wants you to be!"
The wisdom of grey-headedness!